What I Think About Work-Family “Balance”

What I Think About Work-Family “Balance”

  “I wanted to ask you how you manage to balance it so beautifully” she asked shyly. “Work, family…”   I felt like a fraud when the young PhD student said this to me. (Yes, I suffer from Impostor Syndrome at home too.) I don’t 

Mindfulness for (Working) Mothers: How to free yourself from over-thinking

Mindfulness for (Working) Mothers: How to free yourself from over-thinking

Hello there. It’s been a long time. I wanted to say that I’m all right. It’s been a tough few months of transition but I’m doing okay. I’ve been practising mindfulness. I wish I could say I am doing some actual meditation, like sitting on 

Choosing The Moments That Define My Life

Choosing The Moments That Define My Life

Last week I had what I refer to now as the “24 hours from hell”. It started from the moment a ceramic mug fell on my head while I was reading The Gruffalo to my children. One minute I was sharing some precious memories, the 

How My Children Keep Me Sane

How My Children Keep Me Sane

I used to say, whenever someone expressed admiration for my ability to function coherently at work despite being a mum to small children, that coming to work kept me sane. And this was, and still is, certainly true. Work means order, quiet, predictability, intellectual stimulation, 

Changing the Narrative on Working Motherhood: “I Know How She Does It”

Changing the Narrative on Working Motherhood: “I Know How She Does It”

I was at the airport on my way to a conference, travelling solo for once, and visited the bookshop. I had brought along papers to read, but the thought of reading an actual book seemed so much more appealing. And I was intrigued by the 

An Open Letter to Kindergarten about Gender (In)equality

An Open Letter to Kindergarten about Gender (In)equality

My daughter goes to a sessional kindergarten. It’s gorgeous. She now paints like Picasso; she speaks three languages; she is thriving and has made beautiful friends. I love the teachers. But I didn’t love what I am about to write about. Earlier this year we 

How to Finish a PhD while Raising Small Children, and Keep Your Sanity Part 1: Time Management

How to Finish a PhD while Raising Small Children, and Keep Your Sanity Part 1: Time Management

How do you do it? I am often asked, as though I am standing on my head right at that very moment. The question is about how I am managing to do a PhD and raise two small and very cheeky children. Actually, I am convinced 

What My Career Means To Me (And Why I Will Not Apologise For It)

What My Career Means To Me (And Why I Will Not Apologise For It)

I took some time off recently, just a week, but it was a much-needed week of reflection and a break from the usual routine and from my computer screen. I spent time with good friends and family, and with my children. I had a child-free 

I’m Not The Mother In Those “Letters” Any More; or, The One Thing I Want Mothers To Stop Saying

I’m Not The Mother In Those “Letters” Any More; or, The One Thing I Want Mothers To Stop Saying

About a year or so ago I wrote a little post on working and stay-at-home mothers. I had few followers on my blog at the time; blogging was something I did for “fun” and to practise my writing skills. I sat down one evening to 

One Day At A Time; or I Don’t Know How I Did It

One Day At A Time; or I Don’t Know How I Did It

I hate to jinx it, but very recently my children have become easier, for want of a better word. They are five and two now, and are the best of friends. They play adorable games together which allows me to have cups of tea in